Awhile back I did a thought exercise. The exercise was a way of seeing what you valued most in life. It goes like this:
Every day for a week, write down the following snippet and answer it ten times:
Something I really want out of life is…
It seemed interesting, and I like it when things are spread out over a period of time so that you can see yourself in different ways. So I did this off and on for a few weeks. I expected that depending on the time of the day and my mood that this would fluctuate quite a bit, but I was surprised to see some recurring themes and a strong direction.
One of the things that struck me was "Something I really want out of life is to have meaningful conversations". I put this down a few times, but I never really defined "meaningful conversation." Perhaps I knew what I meant, but perhaps I didn't and was just being vague. So I thought about it for a bit.
Meaningful conversations are one of the most desirable events that I can think of. If I knew that I would have a great conversation but I had to miss something else to have it, there are few things that I would rather do with that time. Of course, this rarely happens in practice because there is a certain degree of spontaneity, it just so happens that two people are walking along similar paths in life, considering the same problems or running into the same obstacles. It is, of course, possible to be too analytical, and thereby spoil things. As with anything that is desirable, it is advisable to not become too attached to previous experiences and expectations.